Your wedding in Church

CONGRATULATIONS!

You’ve decided to become husband and wife and you’d like to be married in your Parish Church. Everyone is pleased and wants the very best for you, as you start your life together.  We welcome you, your family and friends and whether you wish to be married in All Saints, St Mildred or St Thomas, we will endeavour to do everything that we can to make sure that your Wedding Day is a day to remember.

 

CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

This is a lifelong commitment; that’s why a good deal of thought and prayer will go into preparing you for it. Choosing to be married in Church means that you are expressing publicly that you want God to be involved in your Marriage. As you give love to one another you will start to open yourselves to receiving and experiencing God’s love – that is why we call Marriage a ‘Sacrament’.  As you grow in commitment to one another, you will discover something of God’s self-sacrificing love as seen in the life of Jesus Christ. By bringing God’s loving presence into the very start of your married life, you bring a whole new dimension into your lives. God’s love transforms your relationship. His strength sustains you through joys and sorrows. Your Marriage in Church underlines and makes your commitment all the stronger and you start off married life, blessed by God and upheld by the prayers of your family and friends.

 

WHICH  SERVICE?

The choice is yours either Common Worship Service Book (2000) Marriage Service or the Book of Common Prayer (1662) Service of Holy Matrimony, Within the former there are many options, which can assist in making this a very special day. It is worth spending some time discussing the form of Service with the Vicar.

 

THE LAW
MARRIAGE AFTER BANNS

Marriage is governed by the law of the land and there are conditions that must be kept. Normally, at least one of you must live in the Parish or have a connection with the Parish. However, the regulations are now much more relaxed regarding residence and local connections. Banns of Marriage, announcing your intention to marry, must be called in the Parish Churches where you live. You will need a Certificate of Banns to present to the priest conducting your wedding.

MARRIAGE BY LICENSE
A COMMON LICENSE

This is needed where Banns are not called. You must be resident within the Parish or on the Electoral Roll of the Parish Church for fifteen days before the licence is applied for.

 

AN ARCHBISHOPS SPECIAL LICENCE

This is needed when neither of you fulfil the residence qualifications. You must have the Parish Priest’s consent for this; it is never granted as an automatic right. Applications must be made by letter to:-The Registrar, The Faculty Office, 1 The Sanctuary, Westminster, London, SW1P 3JT.

 

REMARRIAGE AFTER A DIVORCE

Where one or both parties have been married before and are divorced : the Church Authorities prefer to offer a “Service of Dedication and Blessing  after a civil Marriage” (in a Registry Office). However there is the possibility of a wedding in Church, which can be arranged after discussions with the Parish Priest and if there are sufficient pastoral reasons, both parties are in law, free to marry.

 

TIMETABLE

Approximately 1 year in advance

Book the Date! A deposit of £100.00 non-refundable is required.

3 – 4 months before: make an appointment to see the Vicar and organist.

Approx. 2 months before: Contact Maureen Hudson, Tel: 01843 841900 or Margaret Coombs, Tel 01843 845463, to sort your Church Flowers.

1 month before: Banns read and fees paid (cheques payable to “Birchington PCC”).

The evening before: Rehearsal at 6pm.

On the day: Don’t be late. It is bad manners for the Bride to be late, not ‘a quaint tradition’.

 

PHOTOGRAPHS AND VIDEO

Past experience causes us to make strict rules about photography in Church. All help will be given to your official photographer to enable you to have the record that you want of this special day.  If you wish to make a VIDEO RECORDING of the service, it will involve extra costs and a CLCC licence. You must discuss this with the Vicar and obtain a video licence from the Parish Office.

 

MUSIC

Within reason, the choice is yours! Our organist and Director of Music is Mr Tim Attride, tel: 01843 833586. If it is not possible to see him at the same time as the Vicar, we suggest that you make an appointment to see him after one of our Sunday services at All Saints when, with the aid of the organ, you can discuss entry and exit music and your choice of hymns.

HYMNS

You can have either 2 or 3 hymns in the service; preferably relevant and well known ones that will encourage everyone to join in with the service. Suggestions are:

  • Love Divine, All Loves excelling.
  • Lord of all Hopefulness.
  • Praise my Soul, the King of Heaven.
  • Morning has broken.
  • O Jesus I have promised.
  • Great is thy faithfulness.
  • All Things Bright and Beautiful
  • Give me Joy in my Heart
  • God, in the Planning and Purpose of Life
  • One more step along the world I go
  • Lord of the Dance

 

ORDERS OF SERVICE

These need not be expensively produced, thanks to photocopiers, but can assist in making a memorable day even more special. If the words to hymns are printed on the sheets it means less clutter for the guests and helps to give a feeling of unity to the service. Past examples may be seen in the Parish Office.

 

READINGS AND PRAYERS

Perhaps the best Bible reading for a wedding is 1 Corinthians 13, where St. Paul talks about the importance of Love. It helps to place the Sacrament of Marriage in its true context. Do talk to the vicar about a reading(s) and any special prayers that you would like incorporated in the service to make it very personal and right for you both.

Where one partner is of a different denomination: This is never a problem, and arrangements can be made for other clergy to take part in the service.

 

FLOWERS

We have an excellent team of flower arrangers under the direction of Mrs. Maureen Hudson (841900) or if unavailable, Mrs. Margaret Coombs (845463). Both will be happy to discuss your arrangements within or above the minimum included in the fees.

 

FEES

For 2016, the full Wedding Fees are £882.00 which include all legal and church fees, organist, verger, clerk, choir, bells and flower arrangements. This is broken down as:-

ALL SAINTS

Parochial Fees £442.00
Church Fees £240.00
 (inc verger, clerk, organist, flower arrangements)
 Optional Extras
 Choir  £120.00
 Bells  £80.00
 £882.00 Full Fee
 Video  £100.00
 £982.00 Full Fee with Video

As you can see above, video recording of the service will increase the fees to £982.00. This includes licence and performance fees only. We do not arrange the video.

ST THOMAS’S & ST MILDREDS (negotiate flowers)

Parochial Fees £442.00
Church Fees £120.00
(inc verger, clerk, organist, flowers)
£562.00 Full Fee
Video £100.00
£662.00 Full Fee with Video

 

WEDDING TAKING PLACE IN ANOTHER CHURCH

Publication of Banns £27.00
Certificate of Banns  £13.00
£40.00 (incl admin)

NB: Current FEES are reviewed by the registrar every January.

If you have any other questions please do not hesitate to contact Sue Murphy in the Parish Office, Church House, Kent Gardens, Birchington, CT7 9RS, (Tel: 01843 840777, email: sue.murphy@talktalk.net) or the Vicar: Rev Don Witts, The Vicarage, 15 Minnis Road, Birchington, CT7 9SE. (Tel: 01843841117, mob: 07749 201947).

 

ALL SAINTS (AFTER CIVIL MARRIAGE)

CHURCH FEES £120.00
Incl. organist and verger
FLOWERS, BELLS, CHOIR (optional)
VIDEO £50.00
VIDEO WITH ORGANIST £50.00
TOTAL: £100.00 
TOTAL: £220.00 with Video

 

ST THOMAS AND ST MILDRED (AFTER CIVIL MARRIAGE)

CHURCH FEES £100.00
Incl. organist and verger
FLOWERS, BELLS, CHOIR (optional)
VIDEO £50.00
VIDEO WITH ORGANIST £50.00
TOTAL: £100.00 
TOTAL: £200.00 with Video